I remember when I was in the school play a couple of years ago.
I was backstage with a couple of girls talking about actors we admired.
It is not rare to see a younger guy and an older woman date and have a very intense sexual and romantic relationship, which defies the traditional “older man, younger woman” set-up that we are used to seeing. First, the fact that such a dating situation is still somewhat taboo makes is all the more enticing and exciting.
Many younger guys are driven to women who are 10 years older than they are or more, as these women are often more confident and more sexually driven and passionate than the younger women.
There are some other compelling reasons for why older women are more attractive to younger guys.
No woman is attracted to a guy who is a couch potato or who is unable to climb a set of stairs without being out of breath, especially if the woman herself is very active.
He inevitably has a few years on you – professionally and personally.
You might love his deep pockets, but with his great power comes your vulnerability.
We were talking about Aaron Johnson’s performance in ‘Nowhere Boy’, shortly after which he married his director, Sam Taylor, a woman twice his age, and how I thought it was a great story to tell the grandkids. People often stereotype cougars as this dangerous species, luring innocent teenage boys back to their flat in the midst of a mid-life crisis.
The girls were shocked at my reaction to the media “scandal”, telling me “don’t become like him, Claud. The two girls made it sound like it was so repulsive to think of dating a ‘cougar’, to think of falling in love with somebody.